Author, Speaker, Radio Host & Media Personality

right man

Tuesday, 26 June 2012 13:02

What a Father Really Wants…..A Note from My Daughter

Written by
Rate this item
(1 Vote)

In a recent TV interview on FOX 5 News WTTG Washington DC the anchor, Allison Seymour, asked me what fathers really want on Father’s Day.  I said that while ties, shirts and cuff-links always make a nice gift, what a father really appreciates more than anything else is a genuine note from his child. I referenced my daughter’s wonderful notes outlined in my book, and read an excerpt from her most recent one.

She gave it to me on May 27, 2012, the morning of her wedding.  The note is titled My Chief Daddy Officer and she submitted it for publication a week earlier to an online magazine, hence the reason it is written in the third person.  I love every note she has ever written to me, but this one will always stand out in my mind.  I am sharing it with you here with much humility and pride. She wrote…

As a child, I never looked at my relationship with my Dad as ‘different’ – I just knew it as unique and special.  When I was 7 years old, my parents went through a tumultuous divorce resulting in my mother deciding to leave and move to Boston. Most kids by default would follow their mothers and though some may have had that same expectation for me; at the tender age of 9, I made a decision that one could say marked a pivotal point in both of our lives and paved the way for my relationship with my Dad being what it is today.

I made a choice – I wanted to live with my Dad full-time.  As the CEO of his own pharmaceutical marketing company and now a single-Dad, he did not run away from the challenge, he ran towards it – he embraced it, cherished it and gave me a life and parent that some never get to experience.

I am a direct reflection of everything he has taught me and raised me to be and I’m proud of that fact. He has instilled values and life lessons in what would seem to be an obvious way, but what I’ve learned is not obvious to most. He showed me by example and then let me arrive at my own decisions (both good and bad). What I never grasped until later in life – he was always strategic and by that I mean he was always laying down the wire frame for an opportunity to teach me a life lesson. I always felt like he was 5 paces ahead of me (which when I was a teenager wasn’t always fun); however, it always was for my benefit.

One of my favorite stories is when I was in high school and in the midst of college application time, I was struggling with what to do with my life (as most 17 year-olds will ponder). At the time, I was dating someone who my Dad was less than fond of, and whose lack of motivation was most worrisome to my Dad. When I shared what my college aspiration were, which was to take a year off of school, work as a hostess at a local restaurant and reconsider in a year with community college, he responded with “what a wonderful idea – minus the hostess job. In your year off you can apply to the Peace Corp or AmeriCorps and build houses for those in need.”  What he was doing was letting me decide for myself, but giving me alternatives and guidelines so that this would benefit me; he allowed me the ability to lead myself to make the right decision for my career. Suffice it to say I submitted college applications the next day, because I realized Peace Corp equaled no blow-dryers.

It wasn’t until my years in college when I realized that I was never missing anything in life – my Dad filled me with more love than a village of parents, and provided me with a childhood and an adulthood serving as both Mom/Dad, confidant, best friend, designated driver, career advisor, relationship coach, fashion aficionado … just to name a few.

My Dad is the businessman in a French-cuffed shirts, who rolled up his sleeves to do his 7 year olds nails, the CEO that would pick up my calls during business meetings so he knew I was okay, and the father who without an iota of embarrassment in the inflection of his voice, would call asking for what kind of tampons I needed.  When I reflected in my early college years, I recognized that most people didn’t have one parent that behaved as lovingly and as selflessly as my Dad always treated me. There was never a time where my Dad wasn’t present – he drove me to school in the mornings and tucked me in every night (which is still to this day some of my fondest memories.)

In the 24 years of my young life, he has always gone above and beyond to be physically and emotionally available to me, and he’s never missed any important (or non-important event.)  A few years ago, my Dad was traveling to Thailand for a huge meeting. Conveniently, my long-term boyfriend broke up with me. The person I always turned to was half way around the world, but it felt like no distance was between us. Despite the 13-hour time difference, he made himself available to talk to me, listen to me wail and cry and offer me his kind words to ease my heartache. It wasn’t until I reached milestones in my own career that I could truly comprehend the magnitude of what he did. His emotional presence never dissipated as I got older – in fact in a lot of ways has increased. Throughout my two-year long engagement, my fiancé and I would turn to my Dad for his input as far as color schemes, floral combinations and most importantly for my dress selection. He has delayed trips, rearranged schedules, all of which seemed effortless to me because he’s never missed a beat.

I always noticed that my friends were drawn to my Dad for many of the same reasons I had taken for granted because he is all I knew – they too wanted a piece of his intellect, his astute business sense, his real-world wisdom. He is giving of his time, though he has little of it, to dedicate himself in helping my friends.  He has employed two of them and has advised personally and professionally no less than 10 of my closest friends. He’s helped prepare 5 other for job interviews – all of which were great successes.

It was at this time when the idea of my Dad writing a book begun. His book CDO Chief Daddy Officer:  The Business of Fatherhood is his story on how he applied his business knowledge to the business of parenting.  When the concept arose, he told me the only way he’d go through with it is if I was a contributing author. If at all possible, this has brought us even closer because it gave us a unique opportunity to work together and pull back the layers to the fundamentals of our relationship. The irony is that he wrote that book to discuss what he describes to be his crowning achievement to be – raising me – but what he doesn’t know is that my proudest accomplishment is being just that – an accomplishment in his eyes.

Now, a week away from taking a walk down the aisle, I will have my number one man walking by my side. Though weddings usually represent out with the old and in with the new, I am blessed to say that my soon-to-be husband is just receiving the passing of a baton from one man who I love to another.  Because truthfully, nothing really has to change – our lives are just transitioning harmoniously together.  Every day I cherish the blessing that I was born with and I can only pray that as I turn a page in my life and start my own family, that I will be half as great of a parent as he was – I will then feel that I succeeded.

I am a blessed man indeed.


Chris Efessiou

About Chris Efessiou:  Chris Efessiou is an entrepreneur, business leader, educator, mentor, international speaker, radio show host, and best-selling author of CDO Chief Daddy Officer: The Business of Fatherhood  based on his own experience from raising his daughter as a single dad by applying his business knowledge to the business of parenting.  Listen to Chris’s weekly Radio Show Straight Up With Chris:  Real Talk on Business and Parenthood on Voice America Radio.  You may connect with Chris on Facebook, follow on Twitter and visit

1 comment

  • Comment Link Meredith Bell Thursday, 22 August 2013 16:23 posted by Meredith Bell

    Every parent should aspire to receive a note like this from their adult child. It would guide their parenting on a day-to-day basis because they would be thinking strategically about the end "product" they want to produce. Kudos to you, Chris, for being the kind of father who did all the right things and richly deserves this beautiful note.

Leave a comment

Make sure you enter all the required information, indicated by an asterisk (*). HTML code is not allowed.

Recent Posts

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
Prev Next

Celebrating 37 Years in the Land of Opportunity

08-27-2013 Leadership

August 27, 1976, seems so long ago but it feels like yesterday....

Read more

Turn “Back to School” to “Back to the Future”

08-20-2013 Parenting Tools & Advice

Another school year just started or is soon to start, and you...

Read more

Two Things to Give Your College-Bound Child

08-14-2013 Parenting Tools & Advice

Two Things to Give Your College - Bound Child! by Chris Efessiou...

Read more

Money Management 101: The College Years

08-08-2013 Business Topics

Congratulations Mom and Dad. You survived the teenage years! You and I...

Read more

Want that Job? 3 Easy Steps to Ace that Interview!

08-01-2013 Business Topics

Want that Job? 3 Easy Steps to Ace that Interview! by Chris...

Read more

Want that Job? 3 Easy Steps to Ace that Interview!

07-30-2013 Business Topics

No, I am not a Human Resource guru, an industrial psychologist, a...

Read more

Will and Kate, 5 Things I wish My Father Had Told Me….. You’re Welcome!

07-23-2013 Family & Parenthood

Now that Will and Kate’s bundle of joy has arrived, I’d like...

Read more

The Bling Ring? It’s Not for Keeps

07-16-2013 Parenting Tools & Advice

If you haven’t heard about the summer movie the Bling Ring–don't fret!...

Read more

The Day the Door Came Off the Hinges

07-09-2013 Family & Parenthood

To a teenager, the door is everything. It’s their direct path to...

Read more
phot phot3 phot2


ChiefDaddyOfcr Congratulations to my colleagues William Storms and @JudiMiller2010 on their latest publication
ChiefDaddyOfcr More signs that employers are taking healthcare delivery into their own hands. What do you think?
ChiefDaddyOfcr I hope to see you there
ChiefDaddyOfcr CVS may save big money because of the new tax bill. How will you or your company fare with the new tax bill?
ChiefDaddyOfcr @British_Airways Trying to get BizClass refund and I'm being refused by Shaheem and Bhavya of your call center Pls contact me at [email protected]

Chris Efessiou's Radio Show


Connect With Chris

pinterestThis email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.